How to Bring Out Your Inner Hottie

How is your self-image? Are you in touch with your allure? Do you know that you are an attractive woman who men notice? If you don't answer yes to these questions, then it's time to discover what the secret so many beautiful women know to keep their self-esteem healthy.

I rarely care much about Hollywood, but I got taken in by an interview with Paris Hilton. The writer, in so many words, asked Paris if she ever has a bad hair day. Her response was rather honest, admitting that she does feel not-so-hot from time to time. What does Paris do about feeling low in the self-confidence department? She gets a facial or a massage because pampering gets her back into feeling like a hottie.

That's actually very good advice. Many women tout this as the solution to not feeling good about themselves. In fact, I've been told that a pampered woman is a happy woman.

Why is that? What does it matter if you get your nails done or enjoy spa treatments? Here's why. When you pamper and take care of yourself, you honor yourself. You think you're worthy of extra care, deserve special treatment and are willing to invest in yourself. Both the time and the money. That's a powerful commitment to yourself and statement to the world. Pampering is actually an act of self-love. That's why Paris's solution is such sound advice.

If you are single and looking for the right man, make the decision right now to be good to yourself. It's a well-known fact; if you want to be spoiled by someone, start by spoiling yourself. Dating involves a good deal of rejection which can be hard on the self-esteem. Keeping yourself feeling good is a wonderful way to spring back from those rejection situations.

The truth is, every woman has a hottie-side (yes you do!). Why not help her come to the surface and shine? Make the most of your assets and take good care of yourself. Get a new hairstyle, maybe some highlights. Have a makeover with a professional makeup artist. Ask a personal shopper for clothing advice and buy a few new outfits. It's not about how much you spend, but how you feel as a result. No need to over due it and then feel bad about the debt - that's counter productive.

Healthy self-esteem is actually very sexy. Confidence is always one of the top five qualities that both men and women desire in a partner. Plus, feeling good about yourself will make you appear far more attractive. For most women, 80% of your real beauty is based not on the exterior package, but on the inside - how you feel about yourself and how good your self image is.

Let's take a lesson from Paris. When you feel less than pretty or start doubting your attractiveness, get some pampering. You'll look better, you'll feel better, and you'll bring out your inner hottie. That's a surefire way to heighten your allure and build your magnetism to help you find the love you want and deserve.

The Aftermath of a Breakup

The aftermath of a breakup is definitely one of the hardest processes in life to get through, especially if your ex was your “first,” as in your first girlfriend or boyfriend. The time it takes to recover may take two weeks to two years. There’s no doubt that if you still like them, from time to time, you still think of ways on how to your ex back. Perhaps the following things still affect you.

You go to the library to try and get some studying done and firmly say to yourself, “You know what, my ex isn’t important right now… what’s important is trying to ace this exam.” You’re doing well for the first ten minutes, and then the problems start getting harder and more confusing. As you delve deeper, random words, symbols, and numbers start to remind you of your previous girlfriend or boyfriend. You try to shake it off and take your eyes off your textbook, only to see a nice couple holding hands walking pass right in front of you. Now you’re mind is completely on your ex. You pack your books, and head back to your apartment.

As you driving home you turn on the radio. You’ve never really paid attention to music lyrics, now you wonder why every song is either about love, sex, or a breakup. You keep changing the radio station but there’s just too much “love” going on.You turn the radio off. You can’t even listen to one song of The Beatles anymore. Rock and R&B also don’t do much help. Why did Ne-Yo have to sing a song called “So Sick of Love Songs.” Even though it was one of your favorite catchy songs, it can't be listened to anymore.

You get home and your friends call you to invite you out for dinner and a movie. You go out to The Cheesecake Factory with them but it’s not the same. You feel restricted to talk only about what your friends are talking about, instead of just comfortable talking about anything you want. So for the most part, you politely sit there pretending to know what’s going on, but inside something is missing. Of course, you’re going to smile as much as you can to make it seem like everything is alright. After all, you don’t want to burden the party with your sorrows.

Finally you guys watch the movie. As the movie plays, you miss the feeling of cuddling next to your ex and their skin softly touching yours. Usually after the movie you just ramble on about what you liked or disliked, but with your friends you are a little more reserved with your opinions. You thank them for having out with you, and head back home again.

The aftermath of the breakup process definitely hurts but getting back together with your ex isn’t completely out of the picture. You can still win you ex back even after a hurtful breakup.